The Key To Helping Others
There is a Chinese saying that goes: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”
Yes, the most prominent form of care is romance, but no matter how much you love your better half, it is always backed up by a bond which is the bond of care and concern you have generally for other people. By helping others in their time of need, we build this bond deeper and it takes the relationship to a whole new level. However, it is very important to love yourself first while offering to love and care for someone else.
This shift in the thinking process changes thoughts from a lack of things to an abundance of opportunity. Changing focus away from insecurity and jealousy and redirecting it to ‘I have enough’ is where one should be. Only when you learn to love yourself, is when you can gain the ability to love and care for others.
What Can I Do for Others?
As humans, we’re genetically wired to seek social connection and warmth and one of the most promising ways to achieve this is by helping others. By doing so, it fetches us happiness, mental stimulation, beats depression, stress and ultimately provides us with a sense of purpose.
That warm, fuzzy feeling you get when you’ve done something good for someone is a result of the chemical reaction in the brain caused by helping others. Being kind releases those feel-good chemicals and activates the reward centres of our brains, making us feel good and encouraging to continue with this behaviour.
One doesn’t need to invest much to be able to help others. We can all do this in various small ways:
1. Donate: By offering small amounts to charity or a cause, you can always help others in need.
2. Volunteer: By giving our time to an organisation that needs it, we can contribute to something that fits in with our own passions & ideas and identify ourselves with their purpose. If nothing major, you can always take out some time for a friend who is not feeling their 100%.
3. Be Kind: Everyone has their own battles which we know nothing of. A kind word or a friendly gesture may seem insignificant to us but might make someone’s day. Even a smile goes a long way!
It is also important to realise that giving doesn’t always feel great, while the opposite may very well be true. Hence, it’s also important to draw a line so that you do not feel depleted or are taken advantage of.
Not the things, not the items you own, but the relationships you support and the people you encourage, is all that matters.